We have a saying in the gym when we hear someone say “I can’t.” The short response is “not with that attitude.” The short response is direct and can be interpreted as insensitive. If we stop and think about the deeper meaning behind our response you might change your mind the next time you think or say “I can’t.”
Everyone has a reason. Injuries, age, a busy schedule, children, and stress are a few of the many reasons for thinking, “I can’t.” Some would label them as excuses. I call them reasons because today may not be the day you accomplish “it.” However, if we allow our reasons to continuously justify not trying it becomes an excuse.
If you think you CAN’T, you WON’T. You’ve already talked yourself out of it. You have admitted to yourself that the possibility of accomplishing “it” is NOT HAPPENING. If you think you CAN’T, what can your coach do? How can a coach cheer you on, give you a good coaching cue or move you closer to your goal if you aren’t supporting yourself? Please note, this doesn’t stop us from trying.
In an interview, American filmmaker, & screenwriter Robert Rodriguez said, “Get out of your own way.” People prevent themselves from accomplishing so much just by talking themselves out of it. Here is a typical ending of a conversation I have with people about Fitness and CrossFit:
“When can you start?”
“I don’t have time, I have children, I’m tired after work, I can’t wake up that early, my schedule is crazy, your workouts are too hard, I can’t do CrossFit, I’ll get hurt, I have to get in good shape first, I have a bad back, people will judge me.”
I literally see people making up reasons and search for justification. All I can think is that they are in their own way. They are preventing themselves from living a healthier life. I want to help them, I really do. They are just not ready. Once they “get out of their own way” they will be.
The next time you begin to think about saying “I can’t” try saying this:
“Okay” (best possible response in most cases)
“I’m working on it”
As a coach, I see people do incredible things. People go from shy to outgoing, lose 50 pounds, get their first muscle-up, you name it. It all starts when they gain confidence in themselves. Once they start playing for their own team it happens. Be confident and optimistic about what you can accomplish. You will surprise yourself.